I’ve been working on this post for a little bit now, but I haven’t gotten around to posting it until today! If you’ve followed me on Instagram, you’ve probably heard about my recent strain of bad luck. Nothing major, but I did have my laptop CRASH, and a contact stick to my eye ball which had to be removed at the eye doctor. A bunch of other minor things happened as well that I won’t get into, but I’ve pretty much avoided everything for the last week or so. You know, don’t want to tempt lightning to strike or anything 😉.
Things have gradually sorted themselves out, and I’m back to blogging (with my new MacBook Air)! I’m kind of in love with it now. It’s been my favorite out of all my previous laptops that I’ve had, pairs well with my iPhone for photo editing, and is great for everything I do with my blog. I was really happy to have it so I could finish up this awesome post about my 30 to-do’s before my 30th birthday (still a few years away). Anyways, on with my long-awaited post!
Once a woman turns thirty, something happens. It’s all psychological, because she is technically no different from the previous day when she was 29. But, and maybe this is due to our society’s pressure on women as a whole to remain ‘young and supple’ forever, it is almost as if a switch turns on. I haven’t quite hit thirty, so I’m not really even sure what it’s like. But I’ve witnessed many other friends hit the milestone, and while it may be a day of jokes and laughter, there seems to be a certain sadness that comes with turning thirty. It’s one of the dreaded ages for women.
I originally wrote this list at the age of 23 or 24, with the hope that I could somehow make a plan for my young 20-something self (somehow, even with a husband and kids) to remember all the things I hoped to accomplish and attempt by the age of thirty. So without further ado…
Here’s My 30 by 30!
1. Try something completely spontaneous!
You’re laughing at me right now. I can feel it. But if you are laughing, you don’t really know me. I am the epitome of planning. If I could write down the amount of breaths I had in one day, I would. No, not really. But I do have a problem with trying new things.
If you really must know, I have anxiety. Sometimes, it is extremely debilitating. I don’t care to have anxiety, and it is a real pain in my ass. But, it’s something I’ve got to deal with on my own. My husband is a fly by the seat of his pants kind of guy. He doesn’t mind going to new places, trying new foods on the menu, or making new friends. He’s actually a total replica of my dad, who can make friends with ANYONE.
I’d love to be able to take a page from his book, or my dad’s for that matter, and not plan out my entire day. I think becoming a parent made that worse for me, LOL. I mean, you have to plan out the diaper bag, and packing the car, groceries, etc. These tiny humans depend on me, and I can’t let them down. But, hopefully before thirty, I can finally let go and live a little.
2. Travel abroad
I’d love to fly somewhere. Anywhere. I might freak out the entire time. But to have the experience would be amazing! Greece, Italy,Paris. Take me away!
3.Become a photographer (CHECK!)
When I originally wrote this, I was a few years younger. I craved a digital camera all my own. I actually think it’s a great investment if you have kids. I recently purchased my first quality digital camera, and am totally in love! I’m no professional, and still have a lot to learn, but YAY for being able to cross something off my 30 by 30 list, right?!
4. Explore my own city…
I have lived in Michigan for a few years now. We moved from North Carolina (my home state) to Michigan to live in my husband’s home state with all of his family once he transitioned out of the Navy. I have been a cider mill or two, one Red Wings game, and one Tiger’s baseball game.
But I have yet to go to Frankenmuth, Bronner’s, or any of the water parks, farms, lighthouses, or amusement parks that Michigan has to offer. I have officially voiced this to my husband, however, especially now that we have two kids. I want to make more of an effort to explore! One day, I’d even like to go to the Eastern Market in Detroit. We are usually so money-conscious, that going out and exploring takes a serious and firm back seat to everything else.
5. Get serious about my health
I used to work as a dental assistant. But, I had such a HUGE problem with sugar, all the girls in the office would make fun of me. They were right, though.
It was something to be laughed at that someone with my education in nutrition, dental hygiene and care would make the choices that I did. Before I had my oldest son, Max, I also weighed quite a bit more. I was just getting into yoga and fitness when I discovered I was pregnant. I still kept at my goals with pregnancy fitness classes. But my eating never changed, and that’s something that will once again affect me if I give it enough time. I’m incredibly lucky to be as thin as I am after two kids. I have my lovely mother to thank for those genes, but they won’t keep me thin forever.
Time to clean up my diet, and get serious about my fitness!
6. Start Blogging (CHECK!)
Before this blog, I started blogging on my own Christian mom website (it was cleverly named psalmsformoms.com). *Update* that domain is now worth almost $4,000!* As anyone has, I’m sure, I greatly questioned my faith after starting my blog, and quickly ran out of things to write about. I found myself quoting bible verses I hadn’t thoroughly studied, and felt more and more like a phony. My heart wasn’t in it.
Sorry Jesus. I’m still working on it.
I’ve always felt compelled to write, though. It’s been the constant in my life that has always helped me express myself. So, I am so thrilled to have this blog now, and really feel this is the right time and place in my life to buckle down and write.
7. Go skinny dipping
Okay, now you can laugh! I seriously want to do it one day. All the crazy, romantic movies of my youth had some kind of skinny dipping scene in it. I hope to gather the courage to do it one day with the hubs. 😉
8. Sing karaoke
This actually scares me to death to think about. Not just because I have a horrible singing voice (I can remember my sister peeking into my room with this bewildered look on her face after listening to me sing “Who I am Inside” by Christina Aguilera- remember Disney’s Mulan?) LOL my millennial is showing. She really hurt my feelings that day when she told me I couldn’t actually sing, but that’s what sisters are for :).
I’d love to (maybe after a shot to two) pick up that microphone and really do it!
9. Go zip-lining
Personally, I would not go bungee jumping or sky diving, simply because of my children. My soul would never rest if something happened to me (God forbid) and I left behind my children so that I could check off a box on my silly list. Zip-lining has its own dangers, but I think it’s a bit safer, and totally doable.
10. Go snorkeling
I have always dreamed of snorkeling. Preferably somewhere with really clear water and tropical fish. I’ve dropped a couple hints to the man of the house.
11. Camp under the stars
This might be tricky with the old man already having a hip replacement (LOL) but I think he can last a night with me. I think he’d actually love me if I brought up the idea.
12. Try pottery-making
Patrick Swayze talked me into it. Ghost, anyone? I have a feeling that if I had the tools for it in my garage, I’d never leave.
13. Unplug for an entire day…or week!
This would be incredibly hard. And I hate to say it like that. But I spend a million hours on my phone each day, networking, communicating, blogging, you name it. I think it is kind of necessary though, wouldn’t you agree?
14. Master My Impatience
My goodness. I don’t feel that I have a temper, but I am extremely impatient. I’d love to be able to harness it at such a young age. I’d feel so much more in control.
15. Fall in Love (check)
I have absolutely done this already, with my darling husband!
16. Get out of debt
Okay, my laptop just crashed. I’m a blogger. Like, what am I supposed to do? Take advantage of Best Buy’s Black Friday in July event and score big on a MacBook Air, of course! After applying for a store credit card. Which totally helps with my credit…NOT. I’m working on it, okay?
17. Find a best friend (CHECK!)
I had a wonderful best friend through college. Someone who really put me in my place, and knew all my secrets. We both had kids, though, and drifted apart. I was sad to see that friendship fizzle, and although I tried for quite some time to rekindle things, I accepted that things would either fix themselves or not. I know all to well how busy life can get when you have kids!
I was lucky enough to find a best friend into adult life, and really, she’s my total twin. We are almost literally the same person! She just gets me. I’m trying not to get all mushy, but I feel incredibly lucky to have her in my life.
18. Sit through all the Fast & Furious movies with my husband
It’s super important to him. He has got to be Paul Walker’s biggest fan. But action movies bore me to death (LOL, that sounds weird, but they do). I need some kind of drama, romance, or comedy to keep my attention. Car racing, blowing up things in the background, and jumping trains just isn’t enough to captivate me. I totally zone out.
But, I do want to make an effort and get through all the movies with him because he loves them more than our kids. But I love our kids more than him, so I guess that’s fair :).
19. Drink hot coffee and like it (CHECK)
When I first wrote this list, I only drank the frou-frou-iced-mocha-jocha-whatte-latte-whatever from Starbucks. I felt like a basic b*tch (this was before that was even a thing). I wanted to change it up. I think the cold, harsh winters of Michigan changed that for me. Now, I only drink hot coffee.
20. Organize my life
From spreadsheeting my bills, to keeping the counters clean. It’d be nice to get everything clean and organized for once. HA. We’ll see.
21. Escape an ‘Escape Room’
I find this totally scary, but really thrilling! I haven’t even attempted one of these, but I would love to give it a few tries until I can actually do it!
22. Ride in a limo
I would absolutely love to ride in a limo! Even if it was just to dinner. I missed the opportunity to ride in one when prom came around – my date insisted on driving us in his mustang. It was still pretty cool, but I’m missing that experience.
23. Get my fortune read
Only because it’d be really interesting to see what they’d say!
24. Get in the car, and drive aimlessly!
I am such a point A to point B kind of person. I’d really like to just drive around one day. I know my hubby would love that too. The only time he really gets away with ‘wasting all of our gas’ is around Christmas time, when we drive around looking at everyone’s Christmas light displays.
25. Start a collection (CHECK)
I’m undeniably drawn to mermaids. There’s something absolutely fascinating about them. I’ve been obsessed since I was very young. My first tattoo really should have been a mermaid, but for some reason, I chose a different mythical creature. I started my mini collection of mermaid figurines for my cabinet back in January, and have slowly added to it.
26. Start saving
We have such a huge problem with savings. It shouldn’t be such a big deal, but we are big spendthrifts. We seem to have a plan for all of our money, and it feels like a waste to have it sitting in an account somewhere when we could be bettering our life and our children’s lives. At least, that’s what we tell ourselves – until hard times hit and we are hurting for that extra buffer. I really think we’ll get a handle on starting our savings really soon.
27. Be the life of the party at a wedding (CHECK)
I have vodka, my in-laws, and best friend to thank for this one! Vodka gave me the courage, my in-laws gave me a kid free night, and my best friend danced the night away with me. We boogied to almost every song, only resting our feet here and there. I’m only a little embarrassed, because after all of our crazy dancing, we realized they positioned cameras to catch all the action on the floor. I literally did CIRCLES around everyone, hands up in the air. I didn’t care if anyone laughed. I had the time of my life.
28. Forgive myself
I’ve made quite a few mistakes in my life. I hope to let these go and learn to be much more forgiving of myself.
29. Publish an eBook
I’m still working towards it. I’m not even sure what I’d write about, or who’d even purchase it. But, you’ve got to start somewhere. Writing is a true passion of mine, and I really hope to accomplish this one day!
30. Write a list of 40 things to do before turning 40!
Okay, I’ve seen that written somewhere before (not sure where though!) But I really love the idea of making plans for your life. It’s never too late to plan, make goals, or dream!